• What’s your super power?

    Date: 2014.10.30 | Category: Sweet Talk | Response: 0

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    I have a thing about superheroes. It’s the masks I don’t get. Whenever there’s a crisis, the hero, generally masquerading as a less-than-ordinary working stiff, slips off to the broom closet to magically reappear in a cape and a mask with the strength to save the day, and in some episodes, the world. Who was that masked person, we ask? All the while, they have the same build, the same voice, eyes and features of the people we work alongside and take for granted five days a week. Diana Prince flying invisible jets and pulling Steve Trevor back from the brink of death all the time? Impossible. Clark Kent—that bungling journalist who couldn’t never get a word in edgewise with the boss—you mean to tell me he raced backwards around the globe to set the world back on its axis last week? That’s cray.
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  • Characters

    Date: 2014.10.30 | Category: Sweet Talk | Response: 0

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    One thing we cover in writing class is that in order to build strong characters, they must be complex, believable and, sometimes, the slightest bit unbelievable too. Good characters, we learn, must also do things out of character on occasion. Maybe that means they make a big purchase, love the wrong people, or pursue exactly the wrong thing for reasons at first unknown. I’m talking about fictional characters, but the same holds true for us real ones too. Nowhere has this been more evident than in the past three days.

    Since Monday I’ve seen and heard tell of people making outrageous decisions, going MIA, and behaving badly without the slightest concern for consequences. And I am no exception, honey.

    My astrology-minded friends might say I’m responding to the influence of Mercury in retrograde, which is known for throwing its wrenches into our best laid plans and clear communications. To spare us all a drawn out story, let me give you the highlights: there was a thing I didn’t really want to do, but I said I would because I was available and why not. Rather than say no, I went against my gut, rallied for the cause and forged ahead anyway.

    The day that thing I’d committed to came around, I woke up late, got stuck in traffic, played phone tag for an hour, and wound up going home. I also got a $50 ticket for parking on the wrong side of the street! When I finally caught up with the people by phone and explained myself, I’d arrived at the courage to say no, apologize, and take my lumps as needed. The experience felt yucky because I don’t much care for that mealy mouth sound of indecision. I also pride myself on being reliable. Well.

    So, what’s the lesson here? Among other things, it’s to trust the intelligence of our own minds and bodies when they repeatedly tell us no; to honor what’s right for you—from the start—in order to avoid greater complications down the line. And if you just can’t get it together until the eleventh hour, be willing to look like the ass if you have to.

    Our communications will be messy sometimes. We may fail and sputter along the way, but it’s all part of the path to wherever we’re going. It won’t do us any good to push away the discomfort of our decisions—or indecision—because when we do, we reject the lesson that’s wrapped inside the fiasco. And that alone can be costly.

    Today, celestial upheaval aside, let’s do ourselves the favor of honoring the gritty truth—especially those which might cause us some discomfort. Trust me, this is the act that builds real character and aligns us to the best that’s in us!

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  • Pay it forward…and keep the change.

    Date: 2014.10.30 | Category: Sweet Talk | Response: 0

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    empty parking space

    I got called for jury duty a few weeks ago, and had to pay for one of those all-day parking lots. Turns out they didn’t need me in court, so I was able to leave within the hour. Thirteen dollars lighter, I returned to my car annoyed at the expense of time and money. Looking for a way to put a positive spin on the situation, I took the ticket from my dashboard and approached a woman who’d just pulled into the lot.
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  • Today’s Good Energy Tip: Prioritize

    Date: 2014.10.30 | Category: Sweet Talk | Response: 0

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    So what have we learned in the last week? Me, personally, I learned, probably for the thousandth time, that we can’t do every doggone thing at once. Nor should we want to.
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  • Good Energy Tip(s): Know & Act

    Date: 2014.10.22 | Category: Sweet Talk | Response: 0

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    Today’s tip is twofold, because even though it’s fine to have one without the other, when you put both into play at the same time, results are exponentially better.

    There’s this thing we do—and by ‘we’ I mean people in general, and more specifically, I mean women—because I am one and I’ve got lots of experience with this issue. Even more to the point, I mean you know who you are—and, this thing, it really gets on my nerves. The ‘thing’ is: denying what we know.
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